Ghetto vs. Bourgeois

Welcome Back Critics,

Ever since I was a Baby Critic, there has seemed to be a rift between two groups - "Ghetto folks" and "Bourgeois folks". It's time to take a deep look into this situation. Is one group good and one group bad? Is one smart and one dumb? Is one rich and one poor? Believe it or not, Kris The Critic is on the fence on this one. I know what you're thinking...Anyone who blogs with such brilliance can't be on this fence...and definitely can't be ghetto. Hmmm, maybe you're right, maybe not. There are pros and cons to both. Don't believe me? Let's take a look at the following "real life" example of a young, handsome, well-dressed gentleman trying to gain the interest of an attractive young woman observed by yours truly at a recent event. Here we go. These are not actors.

Guy: 'Sup Shawty (slouched posture, looking the woman's body up and down)
Girl: Hello to you, and my name is not shorty (turning away with a slight roll of her eyes...as if in disgust)

Guy: My bad 'lil mama, my name is Le'quan aka Big L, whut dey call you? (with a look of sincerity)
Girl: Well Le'quan , my name is "Nunya" as in "None Of Your Business" and I'd really don't want to waste your time or mine, so let's end this conversation now (begins to walk away).

Guy: Man, it's like dat? A brother just wanted to know if maybe I could take you out to a nice place to eat and conversate a 'lil bit.
Girl: First of all, it's converse, not conversate. And secondly, you are so not my type (she walks away).

Ok people, let's debrief this short, but insightful exchange of pleasantries. The guy with the "ghetto" lingo definitely didn't help his case by not initially introducing himself to the young lady. He had an uphill battle from the start. He didn't have a snowball's chance in hell at getting a date. However, he had some positive qualities...He was honest, well-dressed, handsome, sincere in his attempt to take the woman out, and apologized for calling her "shawty". The woman who seemed like the victim of "another loser trying to holla" was actually in my opinion the loser. Why? She was rude in her responses and quick to point out the guys errors in his word usage. But more importantly, though two different types of people, she was not willing to even consider the young man's offerings or find out anything about him.

All too often, we "judge a book by its cover". Maybe it's just a f@#$*& up cover. Maybe the content of the book is what has been missing in our lives. Make no mistake people, Kris The Critic understands the important of being able to complete a sentence using standard English. But, would it have been too much work to ask a few clarifying questions versus the rush to dismissal? Such as, What do you do for a living? Is that how you typically approach young women? Too many times, the reason we can't find happiness is because we are too caught up in what we think is best for us. The truth is that one is not better than the other, just different. All I'm saying is that every now and then, maybe we should actually read just a few pages in the book.

Live and Learn

Kris The Critic